A lesson in gratitude – how to find contentment in life?

Gratitude Gratitude – is something I feel every day especially in recent times. It all started with The Irish Hospice “Thank You” book back in 2010. I remember I featured it on Global Village as I  was joined by clinical psychologist, Dr Marie Murray, on the benefits of gratitude. Ever since then I’ve adopted gratitude as my philosophy.

The timing of finding this way of living coincided with my own journey of self-discovery. 2010 was bitter sweet for me as I bid farewell to a false version of me that I had been clinging to for far too long and I welcomed the real “me”. I came out of a long term relationship, lost my house, my beloved pets, my support network and even lost my primary training job. My life imploded and it was devastating. I grieved for the loss of the life I thought I was going to have even though I knew it was not the right one for me. I struggled with my mental health but I knew these were “growing pains” as it was all part of my journey of coming into my own and truly becoming the captain of my ship. I slowly started re-building my life the way I wanted it to be, the way it was always meant to be. This is the same year I met my fiancee Anne Marie and now 4 years on I am the happiest I have ever been.

However, it is a work in progress and I learned a valuable lesson this week that I would like to share with you. This week I attended the Lord Mayor’s Awards and received the Frederick Douglas award from the Lord Mayor of Dublin. This is an incredible privilege and honour. The ceremony was spectacular and I had my nearest and dearest there to celebrate the moment with me. However, I woke up the following morning feeling depressed. Don’t get me wrong I was over the moon with the award but there was a deep sadness that was triggered by the fact that none of my immediate family were there or sent me messages of congratulations.

In the wake of the award and recognition I learned that although I have done a great deal of work on myself I discovered there is a whole new layer of crap that needs to be looked at! These are my core beliefs. We all have core beliefs about ourselves which we absorbed from our environment during our development. Like many people, my core beliefs are very negative and are all around self-worth. No matter how much a person achieves in their life or how much they are loved or how much money they make, if their core belief is negative it will never change unless you change it. It takes constant work to correct these but so worth it as ultimately it will lead to being able to “see” the good stuff which then will help you be grateful and being content with life.

“If you look to others for fulfillment, you will never be fulfilled. If your happiness depends on money, you will never be happy with yourself. Be content with what you have; rejoice in the way things are. When you realize there is nothing lacking, the world belongs to you.” ~Lao-Tzu~

Thank you for reading and wishing you well,

Dil